Among the people who have experienced infidelity in their marriages, the unfaithful spouse, when discovered, do several things to avoid facing the painful reality of accepting the blame for the affair. Interestingly, you see this same dynamic involved with the Benghazi, Libya story.

For those who maybe have not heard of the scandal, due to the downplaying and non-reporting by most major news outlets, the US consulate in Benghazi was attacked by terrorist groups on 9/11, resulting in four American's dead, including the American ambassador. Prior to this event, extra security was requested, emails and letters were sent to the State department requesting more security. Instead of providing more, they took security away from the consulate. This was done, despite two attacks on the consulate in April and June of the same year, an attempted assignation of the British ambassador, the British pulling out of Benghazi along with the Red Cross, and evidence of a growing threat of terrorism in Libya. To add insult to injury, the attack lasted 7 hours, and no forces were mobilized to help them. CIA operatives in the area were told to stand down and  not help them. And just recently we learn that the counter-terrorism council established in response to the original 9/11 attacks in 2001, were not allowed to convene and coordinate rescue plans as per their mission.

That's what happened. But we've only learned most of this over a period of weeks due to journalist, mainly at Fox News, digging it up. Because what the White House's official line for weeks following the attacks said is that a demonstration got out of hand and attacked the consulate. Not terrorist. And the demonstration was in response to a YouTube video that was anti-Muslim. Some of that was true in Egypt, perhaps, but no evidence existed in Libya that there were protest like they had in Egypt. As a matter of fact, Libya was one of the few places embassies and consulates were not having protest and demonstrations, which points to a larger Al Qida plan to distract from what was going on in Libya by these protest ginned up by an old video in other Arab countries.

Once you realize how unfaithful spouses tend to react in the wake of discovery, you can detect the same unfaithful dynamic going on in the Obama administration. Take the following as examples.

1. Blame shifting. A common reaction for an unfaithful spouse is to attempt to place the blame for the affair onto the hurt spouse by saying they cheated in response to some deficiency in the spouse. If only the spouse had acted better, the affair would not have happened. But such a response ignores that the decision to have an affair or allow it to happen, was one the unfaithful spouse made and is itself culpable as an attack on the marriage more than any other deficiency committed by the other spouse. But it gives the unfaithful partner justification not to take responsibility for their action or inaction.

We see this classic response demonstrated by the Obama administration. Instead of standing up, admitting they blew it, and work to reconcile the damage, they fostered a false narrative that it was really America's fault for having freedom of speech, and allowing a video to air that attacked Islam. That is why Benghazi was attacked. Not terrorism. It was America's fault for not behaving appropriately.

2. Gas lighting. This comes from an old movie where a man tells a woman who sees the gas lights lit, that she's crazy, they aren't lit. She begins to believe she is seeing things, that she can't trust her senses as to what is true. Unfaithful spouses often use such tactics on their spouses. If the spouse finds evidence of unfaithfulness, they unfaithful spouse will tell them it is nothing, it is innocent, nothing happened, they are making it into much more than it is, etc. In other words, don't believe what is right in front of your eyes. Your crazy for thinking it means anything.

In the Benghazi case, we were asked to believe something that wasn't there, a protest mob. We were asked to believe, despite it being the anniversary of 9/11, despite the fact they used advanced weapons a protest crowd would not have had access to, despite all available evidence at the time, that these were nothing, not important information to determine the truth, and that it really was a protest that got out of hand. An event that never happened. Made-up intelligence.

3. Trickle Truth. Unfaithful spouses will often only tell the hurt spouse what they absolutely have to, usually only what they are caught doing. So if a spouse learns they've been unfaithful with one woman, the unfaithful spouse will not tell them everything, that there were more women, in hopes of not making it seem as bad as it really is, so they don't have to face the music. However, over a period of time, the hurt spouse learns more and more of the truth as it trickles out under evidence surfacing or intense questioning. So what you end up with is new revelations coming out regularly because the spouse isn't telling everything they know.

We've seen, due to some investigative reporting, more and more information about what happened in Benghazi "trickle" out over these past weeks. Everyday, it seems, we learn new information that is even more damning than before. The American people are left wondering how many more layers to this onion are there? When will we learn the whole truth? Will this be a cover up and worthy of impeachment trials, should Obama happen to win a second term? It appears the only truth we will get out of them is what they are forced to admit to. It will continue to trickle out to the American people.

These three evidences provide the classic reaction of an unfaithful spouse who doesn't want to face the music of their misdeeds or intentional violations. It fits the Obama administration to a tee in how it has handled the Benghazi attacks.

Guess what? I think it is time for a divorce.

On November 6, I pray the country will do just that. If for no other reason than for our service people who deserve better from the people who are supposed to have their backs. Trust, like in an affair, has been violated for them. And it will take a lot longer than four years for Obama to rebuild that trust, assuming he even tries. Can we feel safe with a military who cannot trust their commander in chief in the face of the threats we face in the world? I pray most Americans will realize the damage caused by this lack of leadership, and vote America down a better path.

As we lead up to election day, now just five days away, make sure you go out and vote for a stronger America.